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Our MMS Licensing Partners in Vietnam

Vietnamese Partners

Our partners Doan Huynh Van Anh, PCC (licensee) in HCMC, Vietnam recently shared:

Becoming a full time coach in Vietnam, where only a few of 90 million people of the country population understand what Coaching is, is an interesting journey.

In 2012, there were no books in Vietnamese about Coaching. I read as many books as possible in English and then practiced coaching accordingly. I even took an ACSTH program to get a certified training document to coach people. After 2 years, I found something missing, both in my coaching sessions with clients and my personal life. I wished to find that missing piece so much that I looked everywhere in Asia for a great Coach to learn from. That was the moment I found out about MMS and enrolled in the ACTP program in Bangkok.

After 3 months flying back and forth between Ho Chi Minh City and Bangkok to experience the best Coach Training in the world from MMS, Dr Chérie Carter-Scott, MCC, coach Lynn U. Stewart, MCC and coach Michael Pomije,PCC my life started to transform. It changed professionally, financially, emotionally and even romantically. Everything worked out so well that even now looking back, I still feel the amazement of those changes. Then I thought of the fact that not so many people could afford financially and time-wise to be coached by and learn from MMS Team. I took my courage in both hands to ask for support from Dr. Carter-Scott, that I would do my best to gather those called to coaching in Vietnam so she could fly to Vietnam to train coaches once or twice a year. Magically, she accepted. Our first program was in July 2015.

It’s a privilege for LCV to be the licensee who was passed the torch from MMS to develop transformational coaches in Vietnam, a country where Coaching is just an infant that needs a lot of nursing and nurturing. That’s why every participant to our MMS Coach Training is a treasure found since they were Coached and they are now committed to coaching as a profession.

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We at LCV have the honour of having Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott and Coach Michael Pomije train people to become brilliant coaches for the fifth time in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam in July 2017.

Throughout the program, personal lives were touched, tears were shed, laughter was shared, secrets were revealed and issues were resolved. Participants move on from misery to happiness, from normal days to meaningful moments, from good to great. Friendships were formed among the precious hearts who share the same goals of supporting others’ lives becoming transformed. The 10 participants walked out of the program as delighted individuals. They feel whole as themselves with the opportunity to live their dream lives. Four of the graduates decided to be part-time coaches in order to give back to others while the other six are focusing their coaching skills on their personal and professional lives.

MMS has been training coaches since 1974, LCV has been a licensee for three years, yet every time an MMS Coach Training program closes, we still find the experience profound and transformative. It reinforces our mission to bring the best out of people. It validates our belief in the ripple effect of spreading sustainable development of people, even in a country that finds Coaching as new as  Vietnam.

Our next program starts on Sep 29, 2017. We cannot wait to continue embarking on the journey of making a difference in people’s lives partnering with MMS.

My biggest takeaway from this experience is focus on what I wanted and did whatever it took (with ethics and legality) to make it happen. So far we have had 5 Coach Trainings in Vietnam. Our sixth program starts on Sep 29, 2017.

 

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How to be fully present for your client as a coach

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Awareness means that you are connected with yourself. It is the art of being fully present in the moment. When you are aware, you pay full attention to what is happening, and you’re mindful of what is going on both within you and around you. To the degree that you are connected to yourself, noticing what you want, allowing yourself to have what you want, and going for what you want, you will be the perfect “mirror,” encouraging your clients to go for what they want too. You are free and available to notice what is happening in the environment and with the coaching client, the “coachee,” sitting directly across from you.

Cleaning the Vessel
In order to be fully aware you must first “clean the vessel.” Cleaning the vessel means readying yourself to be totally present and available for your coaching client. This includes: cleaning the mind clutter, confronting uncomfortable situations, tackling unfinished tasks, dealing with unwanted “stuff,’ resolving triggers, and forgiving unfulfilled expectations. All of these are items that might snatch you out of present time. Let’s deal with some of these topics.

Readying Yourself to Be Present
Two issues that could stop you from being fully present are rehashing the past or projecting into the future. When you rehash the past, you replay conversations or concerns in your mind. For example, imagine that when your spouse left the house this morning, he or she forgot to say good-bye properly. Rehashing the recent past might sound like this: “Why didn’t he say good-bye? Is he mad at me? He is probably worried about the presentation he will be giving this morning. I should have made his breakfast and prepared his coffee just the way he likes it.” This mental conversation is an example of rehashing the past. If the internal conversation engages without your knowledge, you are unaware of your thoughts and they are, in turn, on “automatic pilot”.

An example of projecting into the future might sound like this: “I really want tonight’s dinner party to go perfectly. If that business deal is going to go forward, things better be perfect. I have to buy salmon. It must be organic because they are very food conscious, and I checked on their food preferences and requirements. Did I ask them about drinks? Uh-oh, I think I forgot. I don’t even know if they drink alcohol. Should I get red or white wine, or just sparkling water?” This mental conversation is an example of projecting into the future and consequently being out of present time. There are an unlimited number of scenarios that you could imagine that would take you out of present time. The key is for you to clean your vessel so that you are aware, tuned in, and will notice if and when your mind starts to rehash or projects into the future.

 

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Cleaning the Mind Clutter
When you delay the inevitable you also clutter the vessel. For instance, if you know you must schedule a teeth cleaning, a mammogram, or a colonoscopy, and you keep putting it off rather than setting an appointment, you attach a mental “clothespin” to part of your consciousness. Every time you attach these clothespins you tie up parts of your mind with unnecessary items that you don’t want to forget. Clothespins involve all types of tasks like balancing your checkbook, filing your receipts, filling out your expense reports, completing your taxes, paint touch ups, hanging pictures, getting an oil change, and so on. Having lists of tasks or goals is a positive thing when you write them down and accomplish them. Having mental clothespins robs you of energy, wastes brain cells, and “clutters your brain.”

Confronting Uncomfortable Situations
Another way to keep yourself from being fully present is to avoid confronting uncomfortable situations. For instance, if you have a houseguest or a grown child who is planning to move out of your house and the date keeps being postponed, your mental conversation can preoccupy your thoughts. Inside you feel that it is time for you to have your home back, but you don’t mention anything to avoid the confrontation and discomfort. Each day you spend time and energy wondering what to do about the situation. This creates more clutter in your head rather than resolving the situation. Having conversations in your head about the situation does not resolve it. You don’t want to create an upset, nor do you want the person to be angry with you. At the same time, you want your space back, and each day that passes makes you more disconnected from yourself and your wishes. You hope something will magically resolve the issues without you having to do anything. Regardless of what thoughts you harbor about the unresolved situation, it consumes your energy and depletes part of your life force.

Resolving Triggers
Another aspect of cleaning the vessel is eliminating your triggers. A trigger is a restimulation of suppressed feelings from a past incident that caused embarrassment, humiliation, diminishment, or pain. The trigger is similar enough to the initial experience to exhume the suppressed feelings. The trigger may be a tone of voice, a gesture, a word, or an action.
Triggers can also evoke positive memories of nostalgic and sentimental moments from the past. The scent of perfume, the physical resemblance to a favorite relative, the sound of “our song” in the background can all bring back sweet memories that will also take you out of the present moment. The clue that a trigger is occurring is that the response is disproportionate to the stimulus. If there is excessive energy in response to the stimulus, then it is most likely a trigger. When you have become aware of your triggers, owned them, and defused them, they will no longer dictate and control your reactions. Releasing, clearing out, and healing your triggers is another step to cleaning the vessel.

Forgiving Unfulfilled Expectations
Another step to cleaning the vessel is to eliminate anything for which you haven’t forgiven yourself and to resolve all “incompletes” from the past that are hanging over your head. This could involve not living up to your expectations; not being where you’d expected you’d be at a point in your life; taking the easy way out; doing something that isn’t in alignment with your values, morals, or standards; or being dishonest with yourself or someone else. If you have ever digressed from your standards or expectations, then self-forgiveness is required to heal the rift. Self-forgiveness is erasing an emotional debt. The debt you have with yourself is labeled “letting yourself down.” Forgiveness means that you release yourself from the emotional debt of guilt and shame. You officially release yourself from your personal prison. You can do this by writing a letter to yourself or creating absolution in a mirror. However you do this, make sure that you believe the process.

This process of “cleaning the vessel” may sound overwhelming; however, it is an ongoing process. Just like eliminating the clutter in your home, cleaning out your in-box, and deleting old e- mails are ongoing processes, eliminating the clutter in your consciousness becomes an integral part of your life. Take on the process one step at a time, and do something each day to eliminate “consciousness clutter.” Anything that appears to be a clothespin on your consciousness needs to be cleaned out, forgiven, or healed.

Excerpt from “Transformational Life Coaching” by Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott, MCC and Lynn U. Stewart, MCC.  Learn more >>

The power of Wanting

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When you want something – really want it – there is an internal hit that goes off inside you that responds “yes.” That impulse is as strong when you are five years old reaching for a toy as it is when you are fifty reaching for your dream home. The energy that is unleashed in that moment of desire creates one of the most powerful and magnetic forces in the universe.

When I was 21 years old, my then-husband and I knew we wanted to backpack around the Hawaiian Islands after graduation. We both deeply wanted to take this trip, to explore the raw and astonishing wonders of Hawaii that no tour bus could ever reach. We wanted to give ourselves the chance to live off only that which we could carry on our backs, to connect with the greater world of nature. Real life was upon us, and we wanted to pause and take a moment to have an experience like this before turning our attention to careers and the business of building a life.

I wanted this adventure so much that I would have done almost anything to make it happen. Despite limited funds and the disdain and protests of some family members, Bill and I strapped on our backpacks and went. The three months we spent exploring hidden caves, meeting indigenous people and learning about the ancient customs, eating fruit we picked with our own hands, and swimming in secluded grottos remains one of my most precious memories. The success of making that trip a reality was among the sweetest I have ever known, I doubt, however, that it would have happened if we had operated from a sense of “it would be nice to backpack in the Hawaiian Islands, wouldn’t it?”

Think of a moment, sometime in your life that you knew with every fiber of your being that you wanted something. It could be a particular trip, or a specific relationship, or even a piece of your grandmother’s famous cheesecake. Would you have moved the heavens to attain your wish?

Wanting is a deep desire that emanates from within you. It defies reason, logic, and rational thought. An undeniable feeling, yearning for something special emerges as a flash of how things might be. Fleeting albeit, the feeling is clearly undeniable. Whether the impulse is to redecorate your bathroom, take a trip, or close a deal, “wants” are moments of inner truth. They are the secrets of the soul.

Wants whisper without license. Out of a hidden place, a want will blurt the dare-not-say secret tucked away from view. Flashes of desire might create adverse effects because a “want” will push you to risk. Wants ask you to move out of your comfort zone and do something different. A ticket to a new adventure, wants are sure to bring both challenge and change.

Want vs. Need

My friend Adrienne once remarked how much she liked a particular pen I own. It is a special ergonomically designed pen that makes writing by hand more comfortable, and it’s therefore slightly more expensive than ordinary ones. When I suggested to Adrienne that she get one of these pens, since she, as a journalist, often writes by hand, she recoiled and said, “but I don’t need it.”

“Yes,” I said, “but do you want it? I know you don’t need it, but I asked about wanting. What happens to your wants?”

Adrienne had no response other than the one she had been programmed to give her entire life: if she doesn’t need something, then she can’t have it. Her “wants” are disqualified as extraneous, unnecessary and superfluous.

Many people, like Adrienne, operate from a place of need. Getting their needs as opposed to their wants met is drilled into their psyches from a very early age. Somewhere along the line, they received the subtle but corrosive message that wanting is selfish, unnecessary, indulgent and frivolous. As a result, they come to believe that they should only fill their lives with those things that they need. Because “wants” to them, are extraneous luxuries that they somehow came to believe they did not deserve, they feel intense guilt whenever they allow themselves to fulfill their desires. As a result, when they do experience feelings of desire, in order to avoid the guilt feelings, they either deprive themselves, or convince themselves that they actually need what they want. They rationalize their want and turn it into a need in order to justify getting it.

The basic difference between a want and a need is that needs come from a place of insufficiency, whereas wants come from a place of sufficiency. When we need something there is a distinct absence. When we want something, we reach for something to augment or complement what we already have. Needs, of course, must be met for basic survival. But wants, also, must be met when appropriate for the sake of your happiness.

When you know what you want, and you give yourself permission to have it thereby fulfilling your desire, there is a release of delight and power that validates you as a person. This validation nourishes your self-trust, your self-confidence, your intuition, your basic belief in yourself. This reinforcement affirms your identity, your inner knowing and your reality. Each time this cycle occurs, it strengthens your authentic self.

This does not mean that you have free license to behave in unethical, immoral or illegal ways simply because you “want” something. It doesn’t mean that your desires can operate freely without any checks, balances or consequences. It does mean that within the parameters of the legal system, the cultural mores and intending to do the right thing, honoring your true wants will reinforce your belief in yourself. Assuming your desires are not harmful to yourself or anyone else, and that they are aligned with good intention, there is no reason why you should have to deny yourself the feeling of wanting something. Nor should you deny yourself the opportunity to go out there and succeed in getting it.

 

Excerpted from: If Success Is a Game, These Are the Rules,
and written by: Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott, MCC
Source: Drcherie.com 

Journey to the Next Level

Do your remember how you felt after your Inner Negotiation Workshop or the MMS Coach Training? Do you remember the plans you made for your future? Is it time for you to make more of your dreams come true? Then the Journey to the Next Level might be just the right program for you.

During this program you will be supported to stay connected with yourself, your feelings and your objectives. You will move between exploring, seeing boundaries, growing and accepting. Listen to your own answers, make your choices and commitments based on your objectives. Take charge and realize your dreams  

Check out the brochure here.

Date:           March 11th, June 10 and October 28th of 2016
Location:    de Droomfabriek, Radio Kootwijk

Tuition:       For 1/2/3 days € 750/1.400/1.965 (private) and € 875/1.650/2.375 (excluding VAT for business clients)

For more information contact:

Caroline Wamsteker
E-mail: inw-nl@themms.com
Tel: +31 (6) 24 71 62 78

MMS Transformational Executive Coach Training

Your Purpose in Attending the MMS Transformational Executive Coach Training (TECT)

1. You want the best training on earth!

2. You want to become the best coach you can possibility be

3. You discover your ability to coach as your essential self

4. You unblock your potential to serve and support others

5. You develop your authentic self from the inside out

6. You learn the technology of choice

7. You experience a new coaching community instantly

8. You grow your coaching skills and bridge your capabilities to Life Mastery

9. You have experiential & experimental LAB weekends to breakthrough blocks

10. You experience self-confidence and courage to coach your clients

MMS Coach Training is most well known for its ICF (International Coach FederationAccredited Coach Training Program (ACTP) which is offered to the public on three continents.

When a company requests that we train their executives in our MMS coaching approach, they often ask us to customize our MMS Coach Training to accommodate their needs. We are happy to do this and are very experienced at curriculum design, so it is not a problem at all.

If the client wants a 60-hour ICF Approved Coach Specific Training Hours course (ACSTH), partly in person and partly on webinars so that they can make certain that they get the best training available for their executives, we will take their requests and run it through our system.

We take the essential information: 1) their objectives for the program, 2) the number of people they want to have trained 3) the amount of time that they feel comfortable allotting to the training program, and      4) their budget. We then we customize the program combining the essential ICF Core Competencies, with our special MMS Original Coach Training, along with their specific requests.


To give you an example, the Air National Guard of United States of America wanted to have a group of their senior leaders trained in our MMS coaching method. The participants were traveling from all corners of the United States and it wouldn’t work for them to fly all those leaders to one location every week for 12 weeks.  They therefore requested that we design a program that consisted of a one-week intensive, that occurred three times. Each week consisted of 42 hours of training face-to-face in one location. In between the intensive training weeks the participants practiced their coaching skills, did their reading and writing assignments along with the Virtual Training (MMSVT). The entire program was 126 hours and they all learned how to coach. Chief Dan Quinn said this about the MMS Training for the Air National Guard:

“We introduced the MMS Coach Training process to provide a better means to connect to the members of our organization.  We have tried several attempts to start mentoring programs that focused primarily on the “wisdom” of the mentor.  Different with the MMS process, is the focus on the person being coached and their sough after objectives.  In my experience, much human potential that could contribute to outstanding organizations goes unrealized often gets “trapped” within our people.  Sometimes this is organizationally driven – yet other times it can be due to internal conflict, and personal needs that are not realized. 

The MMS process enables a certified coach to focus on either the professional and personal objective of an individual and envision a desired result that the coachee owns and is responsible for.

Over this past year, it is evident that our team of ten MMS coaches have assisted our mentors, to supervise and lead others better in the performance of their job duties.  In addition, better choices have been made in the areas of job retention, (members choosing to continue service vs. quitting), enhanced relationships that could otherwise effect work productivity, achievement of academic / training pursuits, and overall better focus on both personal and professional life.  

All of our MMS Coach Training graduates would strongly agree that the value we received goes well beyond the tuition paid.

My biggest triumph, however, is that our people know that we care about them individually and through their willingness to utilize the MMS coaching process in the workplace trust has been restored.”

We also custom designed MMS Coach Training for Het Expertize Centrum in the Hague, a company that provides technical support to a a variety of municipalities throughout Holland. Tailored to the technical mind, it enabled them to focus on the skill sets rather than on the personal development.
Another program where we customized our coach training for the corporate environment was with KPMG Thailand. They wanted to create a coaching culture so we made our programs available and appropriate to the accountant mindset. This is what their CEO said about our customization:

“We used Motivation Management Service to help us design and implement programs to help create a coaching culture Dr. Chérie Carter-Scott and Michael Pomije taught coaching skills to the partners and to various levels of management. In addition, they also coached 15 of our high potentials. We were pleased with their collaborative style and with the results that were produced with their guidance. Dr. Chérie is an extremely capable master coach and facilitator who helped our staff become even more effective at the execution of their jobs. Her coaching skills are outstanding! We are very grateful for their help.”

 Kaisri Nuengsigkapian

CEO

KPMG Thailand

The next program that we will custom design is an MMS Coach Training for Cigna Corporation. They have requested an ICF Approved Coach Specific Training Hours Course (ACSTH) of approximately 60 hours. It must be a combination of an intensive 35 hours of face-to-face, followed by weekly webinars. We will customize it so that their needs are met and their expectations are exceeded!
If you find yourself in a corporation like so many others wanting the coaching skills to become part of the every day fabric of conducting business, let us know how we can support you by customizing our program to accommodate your needs. If this concept appeals to you, contact lynn@themms.com.